Expensive Abby: He says he liked me a lot after I was a redhead and that my ‘going grey’ makes HIM really feel previous

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been collectively for 16 years and have what I take into account a cheerful marriage. My query pertains to the continuing conversations now we have about my hair coloration. The primary two years we had been collectively, my hair was grey, after which I dyed it purple. And whereas I do know he liked it, I did it for one motive: I wished to keep away from growing older unnecessarily within the office. My husband is aware of this.

Two years in the past, now retired, I made a decision to cease dyeing my hair. Since then, he consistently mentions that he desires me to return to purple hair. I’ve informed him repeatedly that I’m unwilling to do that. He says he liked me extra after I was purple (does that imply he loves me much less now?) and that “going gray” made him really feel previous.

I am appalled and aggravated by his fixed marketing campaign to ask me to dye my hair once more, and I’ve stated so. He even brings it up in entrance of our pals, which appears to me as if he’s making an attempt to assemble exterior help for his argument. I really like my grey hair.

It saddens me that my husband finds me much less enticing or that my grey hair would be the motive he “feels previous,” however I’m wondering why selecting my hair coloration carries such a burden of accountability. Is not this my proper selection? I would not dream of instructing him on tips on how to model his hair. Your ideas? – The Silver Lady in New York

DEAR GIRL: This does not should be the ability battle that it appears to have grow to be. Sure, your hair coloration is your selection, and that is true. (Is carrying a purple wig when your husband is feeling in love a viable compromise?) If he “feels previous” when he sees grey hair, maybe dyeing his hair will make him really feel youthful.

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Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jane Phillips, and based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Name Expensive Abby on www.DearAbby.com Or PO Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.