Expensive Abby: She could also be well-educated, however she has critical shallowness points and little frequent sense

DEAR ABBY: I consider the world of Celia, my finest pal of 25 years. She has been there for me via many huge ups and downs in my life. She is gorgeous in and out, effectively educated and hardworking.

Celia had been in a five-year relationship with an outdated pal who I will name “Vince.” I feel he is a pleasant man, however not for her. He has no need to do higher in life, doesn’t present for her and lives off her cash. Vince barely works, spending his outing having enjoyable whereas Celia works two, typically three, jobs.

Now Celia’s bodily well being is struggling, as is her psychological well being. Vince has a toddler who stays house typically, and when the cash runs out, Celia asks me to assist cowl for them. She would not see something incorrect with this and needs to have a toddler with him.

I’ve had many conversations with Celia, however they have not gotten anyplace. I’ve helped with cash many instances and he or she all the time pays me again. However not too long ago, after she requested me for cash to purchase meals for the three of them, I realized that they went to the flicks as a substitute. Now I really feel used. This isn’t good. I now not needed to present her cash to cowl the duty of a grown man. I am unsure learn how to inform her that I can now not assist with cash. – A tense friendship

Expensive Strand: Celia could also be well-educated, however she appears to have critical shallowness points, little frequent sense, and is parasitic to her boyfriend. That she would possibly think about having a toddler with Vince, a person who cannot help himself or the kid he already has, is a coconut! Inform your lovely pal that whilst you care about her, you will not help the three anymore, and that utilizing your cash to pay for film tickets was the final straw. Then do not relent.

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Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jane Phillips, and based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Name Expensive Abby on www.DearAbby.com Or PO Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.